Surf and I messaged eachother at the same time today. He claimed he didn't get my facebook message from Saturday until this morning. He said it was up to me as I had ended it but that he didn't know I was unhappy and that if that was true that we would discuss things and make it better. THEN he freaked out (this is all via email as he's at work)and said he felt like this was all a ploy to manipulate him. I swear to fuck I didn't even think he'd care! I tell him all the time that I am almost completely oblivious to other peoples feeling and yet he still chooses to believe that I am manipulative rather than just unaware.
I think we will be ok but he had a friend flying in tonight and didn't have his phone at work and he said I HAVE to call him to work this shit out rather than let it get like it did and I explained to him that I didn't feel like I could call.
I also admitted to feeling insecure because I know I like him more than he likes me.
He never responded to that and that was at 1pm. I texted him earlier saying that if he was a free moment to txt me and I would call him but nothing.
He said he didn't feel like I cared about him or us. He said he had no idea where this was coming from and that it had really thrown him.
He last said:
I feel like you don't care about us /me. This has come all of a sudden to me and im having a hard time dealing with it. I don't have my phone on me today. I gave it to Colin so he can meet up with my friend to pick him up the the airport. I had no idea you were unhappy until last nights texts and when I read your facebook message this morning.
So I said:
If you had no idea I was unhappy and you are willing to talk to me about it then this is just another case of miscommunication and something fixable. I care about you/us heaps and heaps. Loads. Piles of candy's worth. Ok?
He said:
Then what the hell was last night. Why didn't you call me before all this? You HAVE to talk to me about what's bothering you. From my point of view this looks like a manipulation ploy, an exercise of power, and a very immature way to have gone about telling me how you feel.
So I said:
I promise I wasn't trying to manipulate you and you know me well enough to know I don't lie, right? I felt like I WAS trying to talk to you. Possibly I was insecure because you don't like me the way I like you. I never meant to hurt you and honestly thought it would be a case of:
me: Im done here
you: ok
me: I had fun
you: me too. maybe we can be friends in the future.
me: sure
I'm sorry.
And nothing.
What does he want? What do I do? And why the fuck can't this boy just like me the way I like him
